Connection

Connection is like a cell phone signal.

• Sometimes it is quick, clear, and easy, and feels good. 

  • Similar to a great converstaion, or a fun activity​

• Sometimes it is mediocer, adequate, and requires effort.

  • Similar to a challenging but fruitful discussion​

• Sometimes it is poor, frustrating, and requires postponement

  • Similar to arguments and conflict​​

Attachment

Attachment means we have gotten used to having something

• We rely on it, it relies on us, or both.

• We miss it when it is gone​

• We can be attached to a coffee cup, a car, a pet, or a person

• We may say we love each of these, but we don't actually love our cup or car.

  • We are just attached to them.​

Love

Love means we care about the wellbeing of another living thing

• We want the best things for that other

• We empathize when that other hurts or needs

• We will give, and not just take

Romantic Love

Romantic love is a partnership form of love

• It usually includes, at least initially, excitement and attraction

• It also includes a desire for deep physical and psychological intimacy